The WHY question
I for example, I'm of the opinion that I don't send someone I don't know a message writing just 'hi' and wait for days expecting them to reply. Really, that sounds crazy to me.
I'll include my greetings, introduce myself and whatever the reasons I sent you a message, and I believe you will reply me if you find my message important.
As much as the question 'How' is important to learn or become whatever it is we want. The same way the question of 'Why' is important. It's the reason for anything you don't want to be ignorant about.
Why do you want to be my friend? why do you want to do business with me? why did you say that?
In relationship for example, Why do you want to date me? Why do you want to marry me? I want to know if it wasn't because your parents are putting pressure on you, you are trying to hide or prove something.
After all, Esau married Mahalath the daughter of Ishmael, Abraham's son, simply because he wanted to break his parent's heart (Gen 28:9).
Only you know the things in which you need to ask the why question , but please DON'T shy away from asking.