Reasons why you should date yourself

There was a time I read an article that talked about why women should date themselves. The 'date' referred to friendship and getting to know a person well, it was well written and well applauded judging from the comments under it.

But today, I want to talk on why you should date yourself. I know you've heard words like "love yourself", cool, but after that you need to date yourself... I'll tell you what I mean.

Someone once said your worst enemy is the person that takes his time to study you when you are not aware. They know things about you that you don't even know.

Let me make a small example, I have this speech mannerism that I didn't even know, until some told me that when I'm talking I'll say "you understand?" Almost every minute but I didn't give much thought to it, until when I recorded my first video and realized I couldn't use it because I kept saying "you know".

That may not be an harmful example but dating yourself add to you in no small way. And here is how you date yourself.

1. Take yourself out:
Go on a self date. Go to somewhere nice alone and enjoy yourself. Feel the freshness of your environment, admire the things around you, smile and feel cool about yourself.

2. Give to yourself
When was the last time you bought a gift for yourself aside your needs? The first time someone told me about this "giving to myself", I loved the idea, because I never thought in that light before.

Isn't it intriguing how we can sacrificially give to others but deny yourself the same privilege? What ever you will give to anyone, money, material things, information, ideas etc give to yourself.

3. Encourage yourself
You are your best cheerleader, don't wait for people to encourage you. I have this melancholy side of me that may want to repress me but trust me, I'm doing great at cheering myself.

4. Look good for yourself
There is a way people act funny when you dress well, they ask if something is up, or whether you want to catch someone's attention.

You have heard the saying "dress the way you want to be address". Dress and look good for yourself, don't go out of your comfort zone to impress anyone.

5. Do what will make you shine
Nobody wants to date anyone in the dark. You wouldn't want to date an outcast, one who everyone rejects. Do things that make you shine, and you can only do that when you follow your passion (work in your purpose).

There is no real doing in the world without being first, being your presence, your connection to yourself and that which is the greater than yourself is far more important than what you do but also is that thing that fuels what you do.... You cannot do it unless you take the actually take the time to know who you are and why you're here - Oprah Winfrey

In your life, you got to be as good to you as you want to be to God, in order to be of service to others in the world.- Iyanla

It is not selfish to put yourself first, it is self-full...Have a good time dating yourself!

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