Aspiration! This is what I hope will help our teenagers
He went on and on trying convince me on why I should consider the teens, and for the sake of being polite I kept nodding in agreement and later agreed to meet with him again on the subject, after all I have nothing to lose if I speak to the teens.
I kept thinking on what to say to the teens, my writings are mostly for adults who have dealt with life and who life is dealing with. Teens are still experimenting, they are still enjoying the rides and probably won't get my rants.
To confirm my thoughts, I saw an infograph that says teens should get it right because once they miss the necessary steps, they may find it difficult to get it right again. But now, I tell adults they can still get it right, even beyond their expectations if they are willing to pay the price. So should I tell the teenagers it is ok to get it wrong because they can still get it right? Therefore I felt the teenagers and adults lives are two different world.
Nevertheless I began to think about my teenage years, scanned through some of my jottings and psychology text to see if I would be able to connect the dots. Eventually, I stopped the ransacking and focused on my own life.
You see, right from my senior days in secondary school it seems I was never going to get it right. After I got promoted to SS1 as a science student, the major part of me wanted the art class. I remember crying because I was not courageous enough to switch to art class as I thought my friends would think I was not brilliant. Science looked like the class for the intelligent ones.
Eventually, in university I was offered a course I was not passionate about when I wanted to become a medical doctor or a pharmacist...hmm, what more can I say? It is not an inspiring story to tell.
What later made me feel I can still have a better life ahead of me?
When my colleague asked me the name of my mentors, I was curious to know why he asked. He said he wanted to know if it includes people like Oprah Winfrey, I said yes, and mentioned other people that inspires me. That question later got me thinking.
In secondary school, I remember how inspired I felt when one of my teachers, Mr Obalokun, told me about the great female preacher, Kathryn Kulman, how powerful she was and how God used her to do wondrous miracles, I was amazed that a woman can be that powerful.
I later discovered Joyce Meyer, I was touched by her story and ministry. I came to know Oprah when I read she was the richest black woman. In my teenage years, it was the stories of women like these that helped me developed a better outlook toward life.
There have been more women and men over the years who has helped me to make better choices. Their inspirations gave me motivations.
Therefore for I suggest for everyone of us who would like to help teenagers make better choices in life, It doesn't necessarily have to be only career choice, but to choose destiny friends, relationships and develop the right personality, first connect them to sources of inspiration. Give them something good and valuable to aspire towards.
The essence of this is not to make teenagers a photocopy of another person, but it will help them to believe in their innate potentials and forge a path for themselves.
Let me end this post with an extract from Whitney Houston song, Greatest love of all.
"I believe the children are our future, teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they possess inside, give them a sense of pride, to make it easier, let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be."
If I have to speak to teenagers, I would prefer to give them a life to aspire towards. Hopefully, it will kick-start their journey into purpose discovery.