Looking for a life partner? Firstly, get your work right

I am not a relationship expert, I don't even think I have the call to function in that area, but because of my passion to help adult achieve a successful work-life, I will say my view on family (marriage) and how it affects your work (purpose in life).

A friend of mine recently said a jobless man has no right to tell a lady "I love you" neither should he ask for her hand in marriage. It sounds unfair, everyone should have the right to love. We are emotional beings who wants affection and the need to be loved. In this post, I will focus on work, not a job, but I hope you get it.

Isn't it amazing that we spend most of our time at work but the few hours we spend at home with our family affects everything around us. It is not common to read news of workers stabbing themselves to death or fight dirty in a corporate organization, but almost everyday we read domestic horror stories in the news.

I feel this is because we know we have something to lose (earning power) at our workplace, but acts carelessly at home. Haven't you seen celebrities who quickly and easily apologize publicly to their fans but also find it easy to divorce their spouse on the ground of irreconcilable differences?

God gave Adam work before he gave him a wife. In the same manner God created the woman because there was work to be done, "It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make an help meet for him"-Genesis 2:18.

Adam was initially working alone, taking care of the animals and dressing the field alone. But we should note that Adam was not lonely, he had the animals for company and God also comes to visit him, but Adam was doing all the works alone.

I believe a man and woman who has taken their time to get their work right (discover purpose), will most likely look for supportive and meaningful qualities in their spouses. And because they both know they have something to lose if they don't get it right, they will most likely live peacefully together.

"Your work can stand as a snare to you if you don't get it right. Most people are concerned about your marital status after they know your work"- Tope Elizabeth

Notice, I kept using the word 'work' and not simply a job, business or career. All these are included in work, and by work I meant your discovered purpose, the value you are adding to others, that earns you a living.

As a work-life strategist, I will say your family-life will greatly influence your work-life, and your work-life will also affect your family-life. But when we know that God put us in this life for a reason, to impact others and to leave this world a better place than we met it. If the work we do and the family we chose is a way of fulfilling this purpose, then we should thrive to get both right.

You can get it right when you decide to live in alignment with your purpose.

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